Told by Chidi

His Story

How I Found the Love of My Life

01

The Library Encounter

There is no telling our story without going back to the UNILAG library in 2018. I was a final-year Engineering student trying to survive Thermodynamics. She was in the Medical Library, buried in Pharmacology notes. I had seen her around campus a few times — always with her nose in a book, always focused. I told my friend Jide, "That girl looks like she has her life together." Jide laughed and said, "Go and say hi." I didn't. Not that day, at least.

But fate has a way of arranging meetings. The next week, I found myself at the same reading table, two seats away from her. She was struggling with a heavy stack of books. I offered to help her carry them to the checkout desk. She smiled — the kind of smile that makes you forget every equation you ever learned — and said, "Thank you. You're a lifesaver." That was it. No sparks. Just a kind gesture and a polite thank you.

The library where we first met
02

The Group Project Plot Twist

Three months later, our paths crossed again. This time, it was a mandatory inter-faculty seminar on Research Ethics. We were placed in the same group of eight students. I was the only Engineering student in a sea of Medical students, and she was the group leader.

I remember the first group meeting vividly. Zara was organized, articulate, and frighteningly intelligent. She assigned tasks, set deadlines, and made sure everyone was heard. I was impressed. But I was also intimidated. This girl was out of my league in every way — academically, socially, and let's be honest, looks-wise too.

But something shifted during the late-night study sessions. While the others chatted about parties and gossip, Zara and I found ourselves debating everything — politics, faith, music, our dreams for Nigeria. She challenged my opinions. She made me think deeper. And slowly, without me realizing it, I started looking forward to those meetings for reasons that had nothing to do with the seminar grade.

Late night study sessions
03

The Long Walk and the Confession

The seminar ended. We got an A. Everyone celebrated and went their separate ways. But I couldn't stop thinking about her. So I did something brave — I sent her a message. "Hi Zara, it's Chidi from the seminar group. I was wondering if you'd like to grab coffee sometime. Not as group mates. Just... as friends."

She replied four hours later. "I'd like that."

Our first "coffee" turned into a four-hour walk around campus. We talked about our families — she was the last of five children, I was the first of three. We talked about our fears — she was terrified of failing, I was terrified of not mattering. And somewhere between the Faculty of Arts and the Sports Complex, I knew. This wasn't just friendship. This was something sacred.

I didn't tell her that day. I was patient. I was consistent. I showed up — for her exams, her bad days, her victories. And on September 28, 2019, under a sky full of stars at Bar Beach, I finally said the words: "Zara, I love you. I have for a while now. And I will wait as long as it takes, but I needed you to know."

She didn't say anything for ten seconds. Then she smiled and said, "It's about time, Chidi. It's about time."

Bar Beach under the stars
04

Intention, Consistency, Forever

From that day, I was intentional. Every morning text. Every surprise lunch. Every prayer over the phone at midnight. I was consistent like clockwork because I knew what I had found was rare.

We graduated. She went to NYSC in Kano, I started my tech career in Lagos. The distance was hard. The network was worse. But we held on. We prayed. We trusted. And on her 25th birthday, I knelt in her parents' living room in Ibadan and asked for her hand in marriage. Her father looked at me for a long time, then said, "You have been patient. You have been respectful. You have my blessing."

Zara cried. I cried. Her mother pretended she wasn't crying.

That was the day I knew: this love wasn't just ours. It was built by God, supported by family, and strengthened by every trial we survived together. Forever starts now. And I cannot wait.

The day I asked for her hand
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